Having a large family is a gift – but also a challenge. When several children are in the house, daily life can quickly become chaotic. However, with the right mindset, organisation, and a few practical tips, life in a large family can not only work but also be full of joy and harmony. This article explains how parents can successfully manage everyday life with multiple children.
1. Set Priorities and Stay Flexible
A large family means that things won’t always go as planned. Parents should prepare themselves for the fact that flexibility is key. Instead of trying to do everything perfectly, it’s helpful to set priorities:
- What absolutely needs to be done today?
- What can wait?
Tip: Create a list of the day’s most important tasks and leave room for unexpected events. This way, the focus remains on what truly matters.
“In a large family, it’s impossible to do everything perfectly. Instead, parents should learn to be flexible and set priorities. It’s not about doing everything but about doing the important things well.” — Dr Jesper Juul
2. Encourage Teamwork
In a large family, it’s essential that everyone works together. Children can – depending on their age – be involved in household tasks. Jobs like setting the table, tidying up, or feeding pets can also be handled by younger children.
Tip: Create a weekly task schedule where each family member has a clear role. Reward children for their contributions to keep them motivated.
“Involving children in household tasks not only strengthens family bonds but also fosters their independence and sense of responsibility. Even small tasks give them the feeling of being part of a team.”
3. Establish Routines
A structured daily routine provides order and security – especially in a large family. Fixed mealtimes, bedtime routines, and rituals like having breakfast or dinner together help organise daily life.
Tip: Plan the week in advance, including meals, leisure activities, and homework. A family calendar can help keep track of everything.
“Fixed routines provide children with security and guidance. Especially in large families, a clear daily structure is essential to organise life and reduce stress.” — Dr Haim Ginott
4. Quality Over Quantity
It can sometimes be challenging to give each child the individual attention they need. However, it’s more important to create small but meaningful moments with each child than to be constantly available.
Tip: Consciously set aside time for each child, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day. A personal conversation, a game, or a hug can work wonders.
“Children don’t need constant attention but rather intentional, meaningful moments with their parents. These small yet significant interactions strengthen bonds and convey love and understanding.” — Dr Gary Chapman
5. Accept Chaos and Practise Patience
In a large family, chaos is inevitable. It’s important not to get stressed by mess or minor conflicts. Instead, it helps to keep the bigger picture in mind: the joy that comes with having a big family.
Tip: Set realistic goals and accept that not everything has to be perfect all the time. Humour can be a lifesaver in stressful moments.
“A large family inevitably brings chaos. Parents should learn to accept imperfection and find humour in the little mishaps of everyday life.” — Dr Laura Markham
6. Make Time for Your Partnership
Amid the challenges of family life, the partnership should not be neglected. Parents need to consciously make time for each other to strengthen their relationship.
Tip: Plan regular “date nights” or shared moments – even if it’s just a walk or breakfast together.
“A strong partnership is the foundation of a stable family. Parents should consciously make time for each other to nurture their relationship – even if it’s just small moments together in daily life.” — Dr John Gottman
7. Build Networks and Accept Help
Raising multiple children doesn’t have to be done by parents alone. Friends, relatives, and neighbours can be valuable sources of support.
Tip: Don’t hesitate to ask for help, whether it’s with childcare or daily tasks. A strong network is worth its weight in gold.
“It takes a village to raise a child. Parents should build networks and be willing to accept help. This strengthens not only the family but also the community.” — Dr Alfred Adler
8. Enjoy the Beautiful Moments
Life in a large family is full of unique moments: shared laughter, spontaneous games, and the love that every family member brings. These moments enrich everyday life.
Tip: Capture beautiful moments through photos, videos, or a family journal. This keeps the memories alive.
Conclusion
Life in a large family is an adventure that requires organisation, patience, and teamwork. However, with the right attitude and a few practical strategies, daily life can not only be managed but also enjoyed. A large family is a source of joy – and with a bit of patience and humour, it becomes the most beautiful chaos in the world.
Reflection Questions
- What priorities do I set in daily life, and how flexible am I when things don’t go as planned?
(Guidance: Focus on what’s essential and reduce stress.)
- How can I involve my children more in daily tasks to foster teamwork and responsibility?
(Guidance: Strengthen family collaboration and ease the daily workload.)
- When was the last time I spent quality time with each individual child or my partner, and how can I make these moments more regular?
(Guidance: Deepen and nurture family relationships.)
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Author
Dr. Karl-Maria de Molina
CEO & Co-Founder ThinkSimple.io
Project Manager and Chairman of Family Valued
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